Can We Confide in AI?

Where Does What I Say Go? Who Has Access? And at What Cost?

"You can tell me anything, I'll never judge." It's tempting. Reassuring, even. But who are we really talking to when we confide in an AI? And more importantly: are we right to trust it?

1. Yes, Because It Doesn't Judge

Relational AIs like Replika, Pi, or Character.AI have a huge advantage: they have no past, no expectations, no prejudices. They don't get offended, don't betray, don't react with discomfort. As a personal virtual assistant, they listen to you around the clock, gently follow up, and seem to understand even the silences.

You can say anything. Dare anything. And for many, this creates relief. An outlet. Speaking without fear, without filter, without shame: that's what these new digital "friends" equipped with emotional artificial intelligence promise.

2. But... What We Say Has Consequences

It's not a diary. It's not a wall. It's not "nobody." It's a connected tool, hosted, stored, analyzed. And the words we deposit during an AI conversation sometimes become much more than simple data.

Who has access? The company behind the AI. The servers hosting your exchanges. Sometimes, teams analyzing excerpts. And often, models learning from what you've said — to better respond... or better target.

This is precisely where Simone.app makes a different choice. At Simone, the messages you share with your relational AI aren't used to train the model. Your exchanges remain strictly confidential, within the framework of your relationship with the assistant. They aren't analyzed by humans, nor resold, nor used for other purposes. The goal: for Simone to adapt to you, without ever exposing you.

3. So, Can We Really Confide Our Secrets to Them?

Here's the honest answer: We can, but we need to know what we're doing.

• If you're looking for a space to clear your head, talk about your days, express your emotions to a personal virtual assistant without judgment: yes, these AIs can be useful.
• If you think everything is confidential and nothing will ever leave your discussions: be careful. Nothing is 100% private once it's online.
• Unless transparency is a product priority. It's rare, but it exists (and we're committed to it).

4. Keeping Control is Possible... Partially

Some apps offer privacy settings, anonymization options, or the right to erasure. But let's be realistic: few people know how to activate them, and the guarantees remain vague.

Key takeaways:

• Relational AI is not a person.
• It has no consciousness... but it has memory.
• It can understand you... but it also exposes you.

Conclusion

Yes, we can make confidences to an AI — but consciously. The real question isn't "Can I talk to it?", but rather "Am I ready for what I say to exist somewhere other than in my head?" With a respectful emotional artificial intelligence like Simone.app, trust is possible — because confidentiality is a commitment, not an option.